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Barbara Wegner's avatar

"One way to avoid getting targeted in a cancel campaign is to temper your conversation. Refrain from overheated rhetoric and calls for violence."

There is no way to avoid getting targeted in a cancel campaign because everyone out there has their own bug-a-boos about what it is heretical, offensive, or inappropriate.

I'm okay with enforcing your boundaries and attacking back (defending yourself) to the person who attacked you. But with a lot of these people, they're attacking the wrong targets.

Like, if someone says something mean about Trump (wanting him dead), the person attacked is Trump. People who identify with Trump feel as if it's about them too. But it's about Trump. The person who should be defending himself is Trump in that case. He doesn't care enough to fight back, so why does everyone else care on his behalf?

People are aware that the Home Depot lady didn't attack them personally, but see her as a representative of the people who do. They're choosing the wrong target. They don't feel as if they can go up against the people who directly hurt them so they attack the more vulnerable target to feel better. That's blame shifting and it's not "defending yourself."

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NanaW's avatar

I appreciate your wanting to establish a dialog about the cancel culture phenomenon. This is good, and I hope the conversation continues.

But as far as I know, the ones who began all this have never begun or had a dialog questioning whether cancel culture is right, or appropriate; or self-reflecting over what this does to your society at large or your inner man. If one good thing could come out of the current situation it would be that this starts happening.

My own personal stance is this: We are forced to deal with many of our fellow citizens who are basically adult toddlers. They shriek and pitch a fit over everything they don’t like, and act as bullies to get their way. The world has in some ways turned into a gigantic school yard. Maybe it’s been that way for a long time, and we are only now realizing it.

When we were raising our kids, we taught them not to be bullies, and don’t pick on other people. Don’t start trouble. But if some other kid starts trouble with you, you have our permission to end it.

Perhaps in an imperfect way, the scales are rebalancing themselves in our imperfect society. I pray that the process may not further damage things. And that grace for repentance and restoration may be manifested in the hearts of all.

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